“In whom the whole building, being fitted together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord, in whom you also are being built together for a dwelling place of God in the Spirit.“ (Ephesians 2:21–22).”

To love another person we must let them into our lives. We cannot love on our own agenda: we can only love by embracing the agenda of the other. This is why the gospel consistently requires us to lay down our lives. This is why walking “worthy of calling with which we are called“ (Ephesians 4:2) involves lowliness, gentleness, longsuffering, and bearing with one another in love.” And of course we have the great model for our walk at Calvary, the demonstration of heavenly submission magnificently expounded for us by Paul in Philippians 2 : 6-10.

However we understand or experience it, an essential principle of Christian life is that “the love of God is poured out into our hearts by the Holy Spirit who is given to us.” (Rom 5:5) But what we don’t talk or read about very much is how Christ’s love for us is demonstrated by the very fact that He laid down His life in order to let us in. If He let us into His life, how much do we let each other into ours?

We are being built together in Him in order for him to dwell in us. What an incredible reciprocation. We love Him because He first loved us. And if He is building us together for the honour and privilege of being in Him we also need to love one another first, letting each other into our own lives with no personal agenda or demand. Our flesh cannot achieve this, because the ultimate goal of the flesh is always self preservation. But when His love for us is expressed through us, and as we allow others into our lives as He has allowed us into His, we can truly “walk worthy of calling with which we are called.“

When we have learnt this, much more will follow; because the dwelling place for His Spirit that He is building in us will have grown.